5 Critical Life Skills Everyone Should Have
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It’s no secret that our education system isn’t ideal. Many of the life skills we need aren’t being taught; instead, we focus on programming youth with industry-specific skills to prepare them for the workforce. Too often, this means that kids are graduating from high school and college ill-equipped to handle the broader challenges found in life. Though important, learning the structure of a cell won’t teach you how to de-escalate conflict before it goes too far, and learning how to find the value of x won’t teach you how not to crumble under pressure. Not only do life skills improve one’s quality of life, they are also attractive to employers, who need workers that are mentally stable and well equipped to handle challenges and responsibilities that aren’t listed on the job description.
That’s why the World Health Organization (WHO) identified five fundamental life skills that are relevant for everybody, regardless of culture, education, or background. Specifically, the WHO focused on psychosocial skills rather than skills like, say, financial management or learning to cook. These are broad abilities that one can improve over time through conscious effort that deal with one’s sense of self, sense of others, and cognitive abilities.
1. Decision-making and problem-solving
Everybody, even trust-fund babies, are faced with challenges and difficulties in their lives. Not all of us are talented at overcoming these challenges, however. Some misinterpret the premise of a problem, others work themselves in circles and get caught up in analysis paralysis. One way to make decisions and solve problems effectively is to follow Kristina Guo’s DECIDE system, which she initially developed for health care managers:
Define the problem
Establish the criteria and constraints
Consider all the alternatives
Identify the best alternative
Develop and implement a plan of action
Evaluate and monitor the solution and feedback when necessary
If this seems far too clinical to you, another option is to follow Benjamin Franklin’s method of decision-making, which he called “Prudential Algebra.” When his friend Joseph Priestly wrote Franklin for advice on a problem, Franklin instead gave him a framework for making decisions. His method involves dividing a sheet into a pro and con column and listing out all of the reasons pro and con to a given decision. Then, Franklin would assign a weight to each pro and con according to their importance. Going down the list, if a pro and a con were of equal weight, he would cross them out. If a con were worth the weight of two pros, he would cross the three out. In this way, Franklin would wind up with a final list leaning towards either pro or con and make his decision accordingly. He would do this over the course of several days, so that his mind was always fresh when tackling the problem.
2. Creative thinking and critical thinking
We all know that there are few domains that don’t rely heavily on creative and critical thinking. Defining critical thinking, though is a very slippery task. “At one level we all know what ‘critical thinking’ means — it means good thinking, almost the opposite of illogical, irrational, thinking,” wrote Dr. Peter Facione in his essay “Critical Thinking: What It Is and Why It Counts.” But there’s more to it than that vague definition, of course. Facione asserts that “Critical thinking [is] purposeful, self-regulatory judgment which results in interpretation, analysis, evaluation, and inference, as well as explanation of the evidential, conceptual, methodological, criteriological, or contextual considerations upon which that judgment is based.” Put simply, it’s a self-aware, focused, analytical way of looking at things.
As it turns out, one of the best ways to improve one’s critical thinking skills is to study the humanities. The trend has been to think of the humanities as some kind of vestigial tail trailing behind the rest of the more cutting-edge fields of study, a holdover from a time when poets were actually celebrities. However, the humanities has always been about teaching people to think well. Regrettably, humans have peculiar, bias-prone, and heuristics-reliant brains in place of more efficient and purpose-built computers, but we have to learn to work with what we’ve got.
There’s research that backs this assertion up as well. One study from North Carolina State University, for instance, found that students enrolled in humanities courses became more skeptical of pseudoscience compared to those enrolled in a course on scientific research methods.
3. Communication and interpersonal skills
The Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw once said, “The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” Without becoming gifted, or at least competent, in communication, you’re at risk for experiencing constant misunderstandings and needless fights and arguments.
Good communicators make more money, have higher self-esteem, have better marriages, and are sought out more by employers. Although social anxiety can make it challenging to get out there, seeking out metacognitive therapy has been shown to be very effective. If it’s feasible, just stepping out of one’s comfort zone and intentionally practicing communication is perhaps the most effective method at improving this crucial life skill.
4. Self-awareness and empathy
Self-awareness and empathy are two sides of the same coin. Together, they constitute an understanding of the experiences, emotions, and thinking that take place both within oneself and in others. Researcher Phillipe Rochat described self-awareness as “the most fundamental issue in psychology” and for good reason. Little in life would not be improved by a thorough understanding of ones’ own motivations. Research has shown that practicing mindfulness can promote self-awareness and empathy, critical skills that can combat drug addiction, reduce stress, and promote a stronger understanding of others. Many of the life skills mentioned in this list overlap, but none are quite as influential as self-awareness and empathy.
5. Coping with emotions and coping with stress
One of the few certainties in life is that things will go wrong. Learning how to handle these inevitable challenges with grace and resilience is essential. According to the American Psychological Association, there are ten methods for learning to promote resilience and bounce back from life’s challenges:
Make connections with friends and family members.
Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems.
Accept that change is a part of living.
Develop realistic goals and work towards them regularly.
Take decisive actions.
Look for opportunities for self-discovery, especially when faced with hardship.
Nurture a positive view of yourself.
Keep things in perspective. When face-to-face with a significant challenge, it can be easy to lose the big picture.
Maintain a hopeful outlook.
Take care of yourself by paying attention to your needs and feelings and by staying in good shape.
These life skills are far-reaching and deeply impactful. Perhaps the best thing about improving any one of these skills is that they all feed into each other. Becoming a better communicator will both reduce the instances of stress and improve your ability to combat stress, critical thinking skills will help you with decision-making, cultivating empathy can make you a better communicator, and so on. With some intentional effort and focus, these five capabilities can be improved, improving your life in the process.
by Matt Davis